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Raising Children With a Broad World View

Moving countries changes your world perspective. And it changes the way you parent, raising children with a world view perhaps. At least children that are able to look beyond their own doorstep.

Raising Three Dutch Boys

My three boys are Dutch through and through. Their dual nationality is predominantly on paper. They were born in the Netherlands, speak Dutch fluently, go to a Dutch school and act typically like other Dutch children (as in they eat sweet pancakes for dinner, have no concept that English language swearing is offensive to those of us with British or American-raised ears, beg regularly for hagelslag and enjoy a relatively homework-free existence).

raising-children-with-a-broad-world-view Raising Children With a Broad World ViewHowever, there are differences. Their mother is British by origin and that in turn influences their upbringing.

Raising Three Dutch Boys with a British Tinge

We are raising them to be bilingual. They have visited England far more than their classmates and friends; Cornwall is a second home to them. They eat beans on toast. Branston pickle is a staple sandwich ingredient. They read Harry Potter in English. They know that Britain and England are not the same thing. When it comes to football teaks, they support De Graafschap, but also Watford FC. They lovingly call their grandad’s team ‘Scum United’ (you may know the team as Manchester United) and they like watching rugby. They understand that the best nature programs involve David Attenborough’s voice doing the commentary.

The World Beyond Our Doorstep – Raising Children with a World View

Because of the little things I pass on to them, their world view is broadened. They see beyond our doorstep, and know that the world is a big place, filled with diverse cultures, people and issues. They have views on refugees. And believe me when I say they have strong views on Donald Trump. They have strong views on the environment. They have views on Brexit.

I believe that diversity is a keyword when it comes to raising our children. It is our children’s generation who will determine how tolerant and open our society is in the future.

“Their mother is a migrant. My children are lucky enough to be raised bilingually, to be coated in a colorful mingling of cultures. They know what diversity is. They see the value of ‘different’ from close quarters. I hope as parents we have given them the foundation to never translate ‘different’ as ‘wrong’.”

Our children will be the ones to determine how accepting society is of ‘different’ in the years to come. And its plainly obvious to me that my children’s generation needs to do better than the generations that have come before them.

To read my latest article on this topic visit Mamalode: Raising Children to See the World Beyond Our Doorstep.

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Lucinda Chapman

Hi, I have discovered your blog this evening and have been reading with great interest! I’m in the opposite situation to you – was born in the Netherlands but moved to the UK in 2003 due to meeting my then boyfriend, now husband, on the internet. We have two girls (4 and 6), dual nationality Dutch British, but essentially more British as they have always lived here, go to school here and predominately speak English. However, they do grow up with some Dutch cultural traits: they have hagelslag or vlokken on their bread; their favourite song is ‘hocus pocus’ by K3; have mayonnaise with their (soggy British) chips and they think Germany is part of the Netherlands 🤣 – opa and oma live close to the German border, so they have understood that English and Dutch aren’t the only language around.

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Stuart | Invading Holland

It’s the same with me, my Dutch wife and our two kids. Their biggest influences are Dutch but there is still a lot of British in there that they get from me and, “Opa en Oma England.”

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Birgit

I’m Dutch and moved to England in 2007 for my then English boyfriend, now husband. I have a 3 and a 5 year old and still haven’t made my mind up where ideally to settle down. I keep wondering whether NL might not give the kids a better quality of life/ more free upbringing and I just LOVE the fact you can cycle everywhere in NL…!

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